Nature or Nurture: What Makes Us Resilient?

Posted on Tuesday, May 14th, 2019

The first MEG meetup this month took us to a new venue, Colony in Piccadilly Place. Our roundtable discussion was all about being resilient in business, and what this might involve.

1. The Place of Self-belief

How much do you believe in what you’re doing? Self-belief is a big part of developing the necessary resilience to support yourself in business.

A major aspect of this is understanding your own strengths and weaknesses, and realising what it is you’re best at, and focusing your energy on that.

At the same time, dogged self-belief on its own can work against you, if it isn’t accompanied by self-knowledge.

You can end up knocking on doors that will never open for you.

2. The Balance of Success

Often, there is a need to weigh up the necessity of earning an income against the long-term vision of your business objectives.

Differentiation and specialisation can give you a competitive advantage, but at the same time you may also need to maintain momentum by taking on work that is not your main focus.

Business is a learning curve, and striking the right balance between what’s practical and what you really want to do is a part of this.

3. The Hero and the Guide

Taking on board the views of others, and seeing yourself from a different perspective are essential steps on the journey to self-knowledge.

While accepting that you cannot always change the views of others, you should also consider how you develop and listen to your own inner voice and know that you can trust it.

When you consider the truth of who you are in business, this should be with a focus on whose needs you are serving.

Your customer is the hero of your story, not your brand. Your brand is the guide.

Being true to yourself is not about becoming self-obsessed: to be truly resilient means understanding how you interact with others; how you affect them, and they affect you.

4. The Right Mindset

Resilience doesn’t have to be something you’re born with. You can develop it through a kind of conditioning process.

A big part of this is developing a growth-focused rather than fixed mindset.

You look inwards but project outwards, and gain from experience.

Experience gives you the ability to bounce back from adversity. The knock-backs will always come, and in fact, the more you pitch for, the more positive and negative responses you’ll get.

Keep in mind that rejection isn’t personal. Learn from it.

5. Surround Yourself

A support network is a valuable thing when it comes to resilience. The right people will be truthful with you, and help you take responsibility for your own actions and mindset.

Everyone can benefit from constructive feedback. That’s one of the key elements in mutually supportive networking.

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